Dear Anne Marie: My business partner on my current project can't make decisions. He gets a lot of great ideas but when it's time for action he's paralyzed. Is there anything I can do to help him? I find I'm often forced to make decisions and take action outside my field of expertise. It's a heavy load. What if I make a mistake?
    —Janet S.

Dear Janet: You are a gutsy woman who is willing to take on added responsibility in order to get the job done. These characteristics are widely sought in today's business environment where avoiding responsibility seems the aim of many. Should you continue to make decisions outside your area of expertise? Will you risk losing your present level of trustworthiness and reliability? If you don't make the decisions will the job get done?

Managing The Moment

The "Moment to Manage" is your feeling of tolerance. You say this man is your partner yet you are tolerating behavior that is unbefitting a partner. In business it is important to offer your understanding and support when someone is struggling, but don't stop there. You must continue to hold him accountable and communicate to him that you expect him to perform, based on your mutual agreements.

The Game Plan

First, create a short-term plan. People don't change overnight, so you need a backup plan while you are engaged in solving the problem. Find someone who is an expert in your partner's area and use this person as a sounding board whenever a decision is called for. This will allow you to make informed decisions.

Second, talk to your partner. Be caring, honest and respectful. Ask him to level with you regarding his challenges around making decisions and following through on them. Listen carefully when he speaks. Tell him how his inability to act on his commitments is affecting you and the project. Offer your support and be clear that your support has limits.

Third, create a long-term plan. Do not tolerate this situation indefinitely. Decide when you want the problem resolved and name an actual date. What do you need to do to resolve this issue by the proposed deadline? Who can help you create a long-term plan that is caring towards you, your partner and the project?

Finally, be a role model for taking effective action. By making the decision to set limits with your partner you are demonstrating courage. Follow through on your decision with grace and poise. You will be a shining example to your partner and your confidence in yourself will soar.